I found out today that we almost got a call to see if we would take in a 14 year old girl. No one wants her because of her age. The case worker wanted to give us a call to see if we could take her in temporarily until they found a home for her however our case worker said that they don't want to overwhelm us. We have two 14 year old girls and a 13 year old boy that we have taken in and they are wonderful kids. Yes they have their issues but don't we all? Even our bio children can have major issues. Evidently she is bi polar and has ADHD. This poor girl just got rejected from her relative placement in Arizona and reluctantly was allowed at this other home only for the weekend. The foster home that took her said she MUST be gone in two days before even meeting her. I found out today that they sent her to a treatment home. Our own Miss J was in a treatment home. That does not mean they are horrible kids! Even if she is suicidal -- Maybe I would be too if I had been rejected by everyone that I know. Rejected by the parents who gave birth to me. Now even the people who don't know me won't even give me a chance to prove myself. Its no wonder she is having trouble coping!
I learned about this girl on my trip up North that I took with our case worker. She said this girl wanted to make a good impression on the new foster family so they stopped at the dollar store. She had $2.00 to her name so she bought them something as a gift when she first met them.
The case worker said that she showed up at the office today and the girl didn't understand why she was there. The case worker had been out sick so she wasn't filled in either. The case worker soon found out about the treatment home. That is just a temporary home where kids go to get help until they can return to their home. Since our own Miss J was in one I would go up to see her once a week and that place scared me! You have all sorts of kids in there. Alot of them are bullies and gang members, kids who are addicted to drugs, kids who cut themselves ---They have councelors on hand 24/7 to help each kids with what ever issue they are dealing with. I just wanted Miss J to come home because she did not belong with those rough kids. Anyway -- I found out that a secured transportation unit was the only ones they could find to transport her there. When ever they transport kids to a treatment home they have to be handcuffed. This poor girl had to be handcuffed and placed in this car. I literally cried all the way home.
When the case worker told me this I was in awe! My heart broke into for her. I told my husband when he came home. He was equally upset! He said "If he would have known this he would have come home from work and transported her himself!" I love this man!! He wants her to come here. I want her to come here. My kids want her too! Call us crazy -- its okay. I do have alot of questions about her. I would need to know more but what I do know as of now -- I have a peace about her. How do kids get better when they are constantly rejected, bounced from home to home and are so worried about where they are going to end up?
I did put in an email to our worker to inquire about her however we will not pry open any doors that are meant to be closed. This is now in the Lords hands.
Looking back on where we began this journey -- so scared about what child we might get or what we might go though. And looking to where we are today -- all I can say is the Lord is so good!! We now are more confident that we can make a difference in a child's life. We have proof with the 5 we brought in to our home. All they need is unconditional love and a stable home. This we can provide!! I LOVE what I do and as of now looking forward this is what I want to do until the Lord tells me otherwise. I have never felt so at peace at what I do for a living until the Lord opened our eyes to foster care and adoption. Thank your Jesus for being our guide in all we do!!
