Adoption: Little M Is Learning To Obey

I think today was one of the hardest days so far with the new kids.  My heart goes out to Miss J who has had to raise these two little ones.  I keep thinking how in the world would a girl at this current time is 13 years old know what to do.  Even myself with a total of 9 children now -- has me puzzled on how to handle certain situations.  I am not at all blaming Miss J for how Little M is at all.  If anything I want to commend her for hanging in there and doing the best job she knew how to do.  It is the parents and the foster parents before me that I would like to shake.  This little girl at the age of 4 years old called the shots.  She is such a cutie.....until you see the "real Little M" and then it is not so pretty.

I can't help but remember back when I was younger we had a Muscovy duck.  This duck was mean! It would attack you.  It had the personality of a goose.  All of us were afraid of it -- even my parents.  One day my dad brought home a black Labrador Retriever.  We were so happy when he pulled in the drive way with this dog.  When my dad opened the door of the truck the dog got out and was met by this Muscovy duck.  The duck started to attack the dog.  The dog ran after the duck clear down our 1/2 mile dirt driveway.  The dog caught the duck by the neck and held the duck until the duck stood perfectly still.  Every time the duck would move the dog would handle it. We were all watching from the top of the driveway watching trying to hold our cheer.  We were so happy something was FINALLY teaching this duck a lesson.  It was long and drawn out and it seemed like it lasted forever -- the struggle between the dog and the duck.  The dog finally won and the duck sat there not squawking a word!! It was a great victory!! 

That illustration kind of reminds me of what just happened yesterday all though the neck thing never came into play (just thought I should throw that in). I was the victim of the biggest temper tantrum EVER!! I was scratched, bit, hit, kicked, spit on, plus endured verbal abuse by a 4 year old! she told me she hates me!! She said she loves Alicia, Nemo, Joshua, Brooke, Ben, Clay, Little K, and miss J. But I am mean and she said hated me (with a shake and a scream with a beat red face). Then she said "okay mom I am done!" she raised her little pinky to me and said "pinky promise". I said okay well if your done you still need to lay down on your bed till I say to get up. She ripped off her sheets on her bed, and told me she is the boss and she can do what she wants...........well after about 1 hour of non stop thrashing and swinging at me she was worn out dripping sweat she finally gave in and laid down on her bed with no screaming and sobs. Then I asked if she was going to be a good girl she said yes and then told me she loves me. Oh Mercy!!!

 This is not her but boy it sure looks like her last night!!

I was having her stand in the corner but I was afraid she was going to hurt herself the way she trashes around. I have to hold her in the corner because she would not stand there.  I could feel me getting upset so I knew I had to change something.  Now I have her "lay" not stand or sit but lay on her bed.  I am teaching her to follow directions and to listen to what I tell her to do.  She needs to obey.  Things are going to get worse before they get better. 

After all this was said and done she started crying in her bed after her sister was fast asleep.  There was a motorcycle that went by and she said it hurt her ears. I went in and told her to stop crying and go to sleep and she said "NO".  Well now that her sister is in her bed I can't make her lay on her bed in time out -- her sister will wake up.  So out we go to the corner in the living room.  Here we go round 2! She kicked the wall a couple of times and stomped on the floor several times and then she calmed down.  I said "Miss M -- come here".  She did not respond so I told her to stay there for awhile.  She lost it again.  Kicking and screaming and hitting.  Finally she calmed down again I asked her to come over to me.  She came over.  I asked her "are you going to cry if we go in your room?" She shook her head "no". I asked her if she was going to talk in her room? She shook her head "no." I told her we have to be quiet because her sister is sleeping.  So we tried it again.  We walked back to the room and walked her over to her bed and I said "get in bed so I can tuck you in all cozy."  She would not get into bed.  So (taking a beep breath) I took her arm -- back out to the corner we go.  All the way down the hall she kept saying "I will -- pinky promise mom".  Nope-- in the corner.  We will give it another shot in awhile.  Finally -- with all the above repeated AGAIN I took her to her bed.  She climbed in and fast asleep she went. 

With both girls fast asleep I was drained!!!! I went back to my room in a daze.  I still had to fold a load of laundry.  After folding clothes I got into my comfy jammies, turned on TV and just sat there in pure bliss.  

I woke up this morning at 5 am.  The girls usually wake up at 6 am.  If want anytime to myself I need to get up early.  It is 6:35 am right now and they are still sleeping!! Little M must have exhausted herself last night!