Day 3 of Transition -- Fostering Sibiling Set of 2

Things have gone fairly good so far.  It is still the "honeymoon period" though.  Both of these children have significant behavior problems so I am preparing myself for the bomb to drop.  I have seem some attitude with the 6 year old.  This little girl is 6 years old and weighs 94 lbs.  She is stone cold and show zero emotions.  However over the past couple of days she has smiled more. She has not shed one tear while she has been with us and this includes when she found out she was coming to my house and not going back to mom and dad. She made the comment to my 5 year old that she did not like my 7 year old.  I jumped on that like a hot potato. I made it clear that we are all family in this house and I better NEVER hear something like that come out of her mouth under this roof again or she will spend a lot of time with her nose on the wall.

It is amazing to see my 5 year old girl team up with the bully.  I have been observing my 7 year old being pushed to the side and kind off to the side not wanting to play or mix in with the play. Finally I MADE her go outside and play.  I stayed outside with them and pulled weeds in the yard and listened to how they were playing with each other.  All of them were playing so nicely together I would throw out a "You all playing so nice!!! I am so proud of you!"   I will get smiles all the way around.

So needless to say -- this has only began and I am sure I will have much more stories to tell you.

I have seen slight attitude from the 10 year old boy as of right now.  This morning while they were brushing their teeth I noticed that they both of the kids brought their toothbrush out of their rooms.  I told them that I want their toothbrushes to stay in the bathroom.  Later I found the 10 year olds toothbrush in his room again. He told his sister "he can put his toothbrush where ever he wants".  I confronted him on this and asked him why he did that after what I told him earlier that morning.  He said that he was afraid the counter top was dirty.  I told him everyday our counter tops are cleaned.  I also made it clear this is not a home where he just does as he pleases once an adult as made it clear what needs to happen.  Yes this was so minor -- why make a big deal out this?  Because it grows and festers.  Rebellion starts out settle and it gets bigger.  Adults in this home have to be respected and there are rules that need to be followed.  There are 8 kids in this home and we all need to work together to make it pleasant for everyone.

Today I felt a little brave and I allowed the 10 year old to go with the older kids and Joshua who is 11 to the park.  I am leary but warned all my children.  They have a phone on them so if something happens they can call me.

I am excited to see the changes in these little people!!! That's the best part of this journey.


Blessings!