Monday, July 2, 2012

Adoption: Its My Turn To Use Manipulation! I Have The Best Teachers!


Believe it or not these newest children have been with us for about 5 weeks.  I love them more than I can explain.  They warn you not to get to attached when doing foster care. I would like to know how to love these children and to care for them appropriately and not to let that happen.  I understand they possibly could be returned however I am praying against that.  God is so much bigger than what we are faced with.  Please continue to pray for us.

After spending every waking moment with these little ones I have come to know them very well. One of my frustrations is getting these little ones potty trained.  Little M is 4 years old and Little K is 5.  Little M is completely potty trained however yesterday she pottied her pants 3 different times.  Little K will potty her pull up all day long if you don't remind her to go potty.  There are days she will stay dry all day but then there are days when she will potty all day in her pull up.  I have tried to only put her big girl pants but then she will potty in her big girl pants and I am constantly going through clothes. I realize they have been through so much so I have to take that into consideration.  I have a reward system in place where every time they go potty they get a sticker.  She is very good at following through with this unless she is in the middle of something she enjoys.  It is much easier to go potty in her pull up than stop what she is doing and go potty where she should. I am a very patient person when it comes to bed wetting only because I use to be a bed wetter myself.  This I can handle and I feel very companionate when this happens.  It is in the day time that I get a little irritated when potting in their pants happen.


These little girls I have are very girly girl!! Its all about pinks, purple, princesses and Hello Kitty.  I decided yesterday to go buy boy pull ups.  Once I got home I pulled each girl aside.  For Little M I told her that if she potties her pants any more she will go in these.  I showed her the boy pull up.  Her eyes got really big! She said she will go in the potty from now on.  She said she did not like boy pull ups!  We sat and stared at the boy packaging with all the cars and little boy on the front.  Then I pulled out the princess pull up and I said we are not going to wear this any more.  From now on you will only wear the boy pull up if she is going to wet her pants.  She was beside herself!  Since then she has had no accidents!!!
This is what they were wearing!  Isn't is pretty?  All pink and pretty? with purple designs? 
Why would you want to be potty trained?


This is what they are wearing now.  Guess what?? We have had no accidents!!!

I took Little K (who is five years old and is NOT potty trained) aside and told her the same thing.  I pulled out the boy pull up and said from now on she is going wear this.  No more princess pull ups.  Surprisingly she said "I like them!!"  I was in disbelief!! She was NOT suppose to say that! I then pulled out the pink princess pull up and said that she will no longer wear the princess pull up except at night time.  We then stared at the boy pull up packaging and I said "this sure does look like a pull up for a boy.  Yep -- this is what you are going to be in.  Next you will be in big girl pants!"  She looked at me and said she wanted the princess pull up.  "Sorry-- you need to stop wetting you pants then you can have princess big girl pants".  I am happy to tell you there has been no accidents and she actually woke up dry!!  

I can't stand manipulation but I am giving myself to use manipulation so I never again have to buy pull ups again!!




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