Sunday, September 2, 2012

Adoption: Adjustments And Bonding Are A Success!


When looking back on when we first got these new children and look to where we are now I know the Lord is directing my steps every step of the way.  Miss J has been with us for a month now.  She is a beautiful girl with so much potential.  She brings her own flavor to the house.  I love having her here.  She is trying to call me mom.  Most of the time she calls me "mommy".  I think it makes it just a little easier to get use to the idea.  I know it must be hard and I let her know that it is not a requirement.  She can call me Sheri if she would like.

 

Today at church we saw her old counselor from Kiros.  Jade walked up and gave her a big hug.  The funny thing is my girls were over at their cousins house and they had on these little house on the prairie dresses.  They made aprons and bonnets for them.  They decided to be silly and where these dresses to church that Sunday.  This was the day her counselor decided to be at our church.  Miss J was grinning from ear to ear.  I wonder what was going through her mind.

 

The two little girls are realizing that Miss J is not their mom.  They do love their big sister and Miss J has had to be their mom for most of their life.  Miss J lets me be their mom and realizes that she is their big sister so there is not a power struggle going on.  Sometimes I feel bad when the little one gets hurt and they run past her to get to me to make their owie better.  I think it is times like these that she realizes that I am the mom.  I can sense there is not bitterness or attitude but just acknowledgement.  She has expressed that she is so happy that she can act 13 and does not have to worry about her sisters well being any more.

 

So every day we are just keep our heads up and leaning on the Lord every step of the way.  Please keep us in prayers.  On the 12th of September is a court date.  I know Miss J is very nervous about it.  For this involves possibly loosing her sisters.  Things tend to always be looked out negatively due to the history of their case.  For me I have been lifting this up in prayer for a few months now.  I have faith that these kids will be ours sooner or later.  It does concern me that through the process of getting there the psychological damage that this case is causing them is not good.

 

Just in few month that I have been doing foster care it is very evident in this case how the state is for the parents and not the children.  The fact of how long these kids have been in the system and how many times they have been removed is only evident.  Miss J has written a 6 page letter to the courts and is going to read it.  It tells her mom how she feels and how she feels about the little girls' dad.  She has witnessed a lot of abuse at the hands of these two people who the courts are still giving chances to.  It is heart breaking!

 

Thanks you for prayers!!! Boy do we need them!! I will be sure to post an update after the court hearing on the 12th.

 

Blessings,

Sheri

 

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